What is Perfectionism?
The word ‘perfectionism’ means a meticulous drive to attain excellence. We refer to a person with this attribute as a perfectionist.
Perfectionism is a popular ‘belief’ among civilized individuals.
Perfectionism is popularly viewed as a good and desirable trait, while imperfection is often criticized. We all want perfection in some form.
Parents want their kids to be the best at everything they do. Employers expect nothing but excellence from their employees. Perfectionists desire perfection in their every endeavor.
Do we then see perfectionism as an absolute and global value since it’s universally accepted as a positive trait? Well, in my opinion, I don’t think so.
I would say perfectionism is a relative term and subjective. Perfection is simply an idea. It is an idea of a perceived ideal state of affair. Sometimes, things are just the way they are.
We only attach values to what we perceive as perfection and imperfection.
This is not to say perfectionism is bad. I am only of the opinion that perfectionism can create a hindrance to our happiness. You can achieve whatever you set your mind to, whether not you are a perfectionist.
Being a perfectionist gives little or no chance to love and accept yourself, irrespective of goals reached within our desired time. When these desires are not satisfied, we often feel empty on the inside.
The simple truth is that we only have now, so why not live it?
Being a perfectionist comes with the frequent thoughts of planning and wondering what the future holds and the things you could have done differently in the past.
Many perfectionists can feel genuine contentment because of this negative view they possess. They never feel satisfied with all their endeavors.
We can then see the paradox of life in this sentence;
“How can one have perfect peace, self-love, and happiness when one is a perfectionist?”